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Respectful Communication – Part 3

Continuing our conversation on Respectful Communication…. 7 steps to enhance respectful communication   Model the behavior you wish your partner to emulate. Do not justify your bad communication or behavior because of your partners.   When you forget to communicate in a manner that reflects your respect and love for your partner catch yourself in […]

Respectful Communication – Part 2

Calling the other person bad names during an argument is demeaning. Disrespect can quickly turn a relationship cold and can accelerate similar behavior in turn. Before long, courteous respect is replaced by behavior that continues to cause the relationship to spiral downward out of control. When we speak without respect to a partner in front […]

Respectful Communication – Part 1

I have witnessed couples at restaurants talking so disrespectfully to each other, to the point that I got embarrassed. With raised voices in angry tone, they draw attention to themselves and disturb other people in the restaurant.   One of the fastest ways to destroy a relationship is by taking the other person for granted […]

Stop trying to change your partner – Pt 3

This is the third part of the 3 part series… read Part 1 here. One of the biggest challenges that couples experience in relationships is that they operate from a belief that they can successfully change who their partners are as people and how they routinely behave. During the early stages of a relationship, the […]

Stop trying to change your partner – Pt 2

This is the second part of the 3 part series… read Part 1 here. The problem with this perspective is that it keeps us separate from them and damages our relationship. When we judge our partner, we relinquish our ability to learn from their experiences. As long as we refuse to see in ourselves the […]

Stop trying to change your partner – Pt 1

Only God can change someone. If you try to change your partner you’ll constantly be frustrated because you are not God and only God can change someone. Much of the struggle in our relationship because we feel powerless and inadequate, unworthy, unlovable or incapable of getting everything we need to make ourselves happy and fulfilled. […]

10 Ways to Empower Your Partner

Acknowledge their good deeds. Get into the habit of acknowledging your partner every day for at least 3 things that he or she has done right. Something as routine as waking up healthy so that you do not have to spend your day in the hospital.   Practice empathy and understanding. Manage your interpretations aggressively. […]

What 30 Years of Marriage Taught Me

  When we got married on August 30, 1986, I really was not thinking any more beyond, going on our honey moon, having sex regularly, getting pregnant and showing off my baby. 30 years later, I have come to realize that marriage is much more fulfilling and gratifying than the shallow thoughts I had in […]